Infidelity/ The Cheated

The crushing blow came after 10 years of marriage, infidelity had struck again. The first few days were the hardest. It wasn't even that he didn't even love her, he said, he didn't want their marriage to be over, he had never meant for it to happen.She was devastated, she couldn't think straight, she couldn't eat and she couldn't sleep. Infidelity! How could he do this to her, how could he sleep with someone else and then come crawling back into her bed? It can happen to any of us. Polls show that although 90% of married people disapprove of extramarital relationships, statistics from a national survey indicate that 15% of wives and 25% of husbands have experienced extramarital intercourse. The book The Monogamy Myth estimates that approximately 60% of husbands and 40% of wives will have an affair at some time in their marriage.

A betrayal can shatter even the strongest relationship. It leaves behind feelings of guilt and anger. Overcoming those feelings can be extremely difficult. The affair could be with a coworker, a friend, or a one night stand. Which ever way the affair happens the effect is devastating to your whole world, your security and your self esteem is shattered. Some of the initial emotions are described by today’s guest as a tornado.Should a betrayal ever hit in your life.

1. Remember your Identity- you belong to God and He loves you very much, it’s never His will for these kind of things to happen. Remember you’re his Son or daughter.

2. Avoid big decisions- Avoid decisions that you may be pressed to make. Wait for the dust to settle before making life changing moves.

3. Talk to the cheater- Talk to your spouse about what’s next in your lives-

4. Deal with the rage in healthy way- Don’t obsess, but talk to a mental health professional or a caring, wise friend and always be careful which friend you choose.

5. Remember that You will heal- It will take time and many tears but you will heal. If your spouse is willing to work on saving the marriage then trust has to be rebuilt and your spouse must cut all contact from the third party.

6. Forgive- at first forgiveness will be intellectual- then with time Dr. Palcan shares how you will find peace once again. And finally and most importantly,

7. Trust God to meet all of your needs.

Remember that with God’s help you too can overcome and be happy once again. You are God’s special child and He loves you very much.